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Are You a Depressed Minister?
Keith Drury
Are you downhearted? We call it *depressed* now, but it's the same thing.
I recently spoke with a pastor who was wallowing in discouragement. He admitted
that he simply sat around watching TV and feeling sorry for myself most of
the time. He had been treated pretty roughly at his church over the last two
years. And, even though the people who hurt him most had already left his church
he just couldn't get back into gear again. He said, *I feel like I'm trudging
through deep muck--every step takes a big effort.
He then admitted that in the office he tended to tinker around doing meaningless
chores, passing time away until he could go home again. He was preaching old
sermons every week and just didn't have the drive to dig out new ones.
Ever feel this way? I have. What should you do when ministerial discouragement
sets in. I asked a two older ministers and two psychology professors what advice
they'd give. Here is a summary of that advice plus my own, for the ministerial
blues.
1. Take action.
Do something. Start moving. Begin a new habit. Take a walk at the end of each
day. Start playing racquetball, start jogging, start chopping wood, start anything...
just begin some new regular habit. A minister seldom escapes periods of lethargy
instantaneously. Usually you climb out of the pit one rung at a time, often
precipitated by starting one new habit at a time...not always spiritual ones.
2. Focus on others.
The most serious impact of ministerial discouragement is an inordinate preoccupation
with your own situation. The worse you feel, the more you think about how
badly you feel. Try to find some way to meaningfully get involved with the
lives of others. This may seem preposterous advice for a minister, who does
this for a living, but in times of discouragement we can wind up ministering
professionally but not personally. If you can find an opportunity to minister
personally to one or several people—and they grow as a result of it,
you may discover your feelings of depression vanishing gradually.
3. Bury your past through forgiveness.
Ministerial discouragement sometimes springs from the soil of injustice.
You have been hurt unjustly. People have been unkind, unChristlike, sinful,
carnal, bitter, angry, or unfair to you. The route to release from this painful
past lies through the grace of forgiveness. This is greatest power you have.
The only way to find release from this pain is to say, "I forgive them." You
don't feel like it. But forgiveness is not a feeling...it is a choice. If
you can make this choice, you may find new freedom and release, and maybe
even a fresh burst of energy.
4. Set some achievable goals.
You're probably not going to leap out of this pit overnight. But by setting
some simple goals, which you know you can achieve, you might bring back the
sense of forward movement again. Maybe set a goal to take a one-mile walk once
a week during this month. Or to read one book. Set some goals which you can
start achieving, make a chart to check off, and do it. Your success at accomplishing
these things will breed more success.
5. Get accountability.
Your tendency will be to keep this discouragement to yourself. After all,
ministers aren't supposed to be depressed. So you cheerfully welcome people
to the services when you feel only gloom inside. You probably feel like a hypocrite.
You need someone to talk with. Find someone you know will respect your confidentiality,
and make yourself accountable. You need a contact who will lovingly and gently—yet
firmly—lead you out of the pits.
6. Get into the Word.
David experienced similar times of discouragement and depression. There
are a number of gloomy Psalms which are ideal for this time in your life.
Perhaps it is better to steer clear of the jubilant Psalms, as if you can
sing the blues away. Instead, read through all of Psalms and find the ones
which especially reflect how you really feel. Then, keep going back to the
same ones, reading them—even memorizing them—and quoting them
to the Lord. Just watch... this will reestablish communication with God so
that the dryness resulting from discouragement will begin to disappear. At
age 33 I experienced almost two years of ministerial discouragement. The
psalms I came to own then were 77, 13, 28, and 42.
7. Hang in there.
This discouragement will be in your past some day. Take heart,
it will! Perhaps it's trite, and of little help to you now, but it is true:
this too will pass. It may take several months, it may take another year—but
one of these days you'll be on top of things again. Most ministers walk through
this slough of despond sooner or later. In fact, this seems to be one of
the common threads running through all the great Christian's lives. Just
keep slogging forward, the hill ahead has a wonderful view!
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